By Jamie Ballard
Redbook, April 24, 2018 —
These ideas are so important.
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Women have made huge strides when it comes to workplace equality, but there is still more to be done. And there is no better time than the present to begin building your daughter’s confidence and teaching her the career lessons she will need to succeed. Read on to find out what female executives in media, technology, and other fields are teaching their own children, and how you can share their ideas.
ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT.
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Shirin Yadegar is a mother to four daughters and is the CEO and publisher of
L.A. Mom Magazine. She told Redbook.com that being able to ask for what you want is an important career lesson she has told her
daughters. “Make sure to show up and always ask for what you want, because the worst thing anyone can say is ‘no’ and then you’re back to where you started,” she said.
EMBRACE YOUR FEMININE QUALITIES.
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“As a woman, you will likely feel pressured to act more like a man in order to advance your career but I have found that the opposite will make you more successful,” Nicole Beniamini, Vice President of Edison Research and WorkingMother.com contributor said to Redbook.com. “Instead of trying to channel the masculine traits of being aggressive, competitive, or cutthroat, focus on your more feminine qualities.”
FIND A CAREER THAT INSPIRES YOU.
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“Follow your passion and do what you love and you will shine.” That’s another lesson that Yadegar shares with her daughters. It doesn’t mean that every day will be easy, but having a career you’re passionate about is important.
GO WITH YOUR INSTINCTS.
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“I teach my daughters by example and have instilled an independent, entrepreneurial spirit in them,” Susan (Honey) Good, author, influencer/blogger and owner of HoneyGood.com told Redbook.com. “Every woman needs ‘to trust the you in you’ — you gotta have guts and confidence in yourself as well as tenacity.”
DEVELOPING SKILLS THAT MAKE YOU A BETTER PERSON WILL ALSO MAKE YOU A BETTER LEADER.
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“Being compassionate, collaborative, and willing to compromise will not only make you a better worker and leader, but a better person as well,” Beniamini said.
DON’T BE AFRAID TO TAKE RISKS.
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Good says that another idea she’s shared with her daughters is to be willing to take a chance every now and again. “Pursuing your own passion won’t be easy, but it will be so rewarding and exciting! Most of what you worry about will never happen and there is the strong possibility of experiencing something great, like a victory happening along the way.”
FOCUS ON IMPROVING THE WORLD AROUND YOU.
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“Make sure that whatever you choose as your career, you always give back to make the world a better place,” Yadegar said to Redbook.com. Even if your career field isn’t expressly philanthropic, there are always ways to focus on helping others.
LEARN HOW TO HANDLE BAD DAYS AND STRESSFUL SITUATIONS.
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No matter what your job is, there are going to be some rough days. In an open letter to her daughter, ICICI Bank Managing Director and CEO Chanda Kochhar wrote, “Remember that good times and bad times will be part of your life equally, and you have to learn to handle both with equanimity. Make the most of life’s opportunities and learn from every opportunity and challenge that life brings along.”
BE YOUR MOST CONFIDENT SELF.
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“Just go for it. Too often, women have a confidence gap that makes them pause and slow down while men dive in and learn as they go. Just go for it!” These words of wisdom come from Kathleen Murphy, president of Personal Investing at Fidelity Investments, speaking to Fortune.
MAKE TIME FOR FAMILY.
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“As a parent with a full time job, one must not let work affect the way you relate to your family,” Kochhar wrote in an open letter to her daughter. She shared a personal experience about how her children didn’t even realize that she had a demanding career at one of Asia’s largest banks. At home, she made the kids her first priority, and didn’t let the stress of her job interfere with her family life.
SUPPORT OTHER WOMEN AT WORK.
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It might be a “man’s world,” so it’s especially important for women to support each other in the workplace. “Let’s keep lifting each other up. It’s not lost on me that two of the biggest opportunities I’ve had to break into the next level were given to me by successful women in positions of power,” wrote actress Lauren Graham in her book, Talking as Fast As I Can.
TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF.
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“I know many women just like me who have high-stress jobs that include lots of travel. I have always found it important to take time for yourself to relax and stay fit,” said Ellen Alemany, chairman and CEO of RBS Citizens Financial Group to Shape. “My favorite stress reliever is to take a long, brisk morning walk through the neighborhood with my dog, Pablo. It’s enjoyable and a good workout.”
KNOW WHEN TO STAND UP FOR YOURSELF.
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In tense work situations, it might be easier to be flexible, but it’s important to know when to defend your ideas. “You must have the courage to stand up for what you believe in. Make sure you have that conviction to do what you know is right, and once you have it, don’t let skeptics distract you from your path,” Kochhar wrote.
NETWORK, NETWORK, NETWORK.
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The word “networking” inspires stress in most of us, but as women, it’s especially important that we learn how to do so. “Statistically, our male colleagues are more likely to be promoted than we are. Networking with colleagues and superiors is something we’ve got to do more of if we want to attempt to level the playing field,” writes Shama Hyder, founder and CEO of Zen Media, in a piece for Inc.
ALWAYS BE DETERMINED TO LEARN MORE.
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No matter how long you’ve been at your current job, there’s always something more to learn. “Commit yourself to advancing your knowledge, skills, and expertise. The business environment is quickly changing, and your understanding of the leading practices, thinking, and emerging tools will help you manage for better results. Be a lifelong student,” Senior Vice President of Corporate Communications for L’Oréal USA, Pam Alabaster said to Shape.
LEARN FROM YOUR FAILURES.
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“We need to accept that we won’t always make the right decisions, that we’ll screw up royally sometimes. Understand that failure is not the opposite of success, it’s part of success.” This was Arianna Huffington’s career advice at a commencement speech she gave in 2011, where she shared some of her own “fails” that helped her go on to have a super-successful career.
YOU CAN CORRECT WORKPLACE BIASES.
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If there’s anyone who’s got valuable advice on women in the workplace, it’s probably Sheryl Sandberg — she literally wrote the book on it. “The first thing I would tell men and women is that biases are real, but you can correct them — on every level,” the Facebook COO said to CNBC. “For example, when women are getting interrupted, you can interrupt the interrupter, even if you are the junior manager.”