By Robert G. Hess, Jr., PhD, RN, FAAN
Nurse.com, July 16, 2018 —
Just about anyone who has a planned career trajectory will encounter a difficult boss, a supervisor who is just singing off another sheet of music than you. The literature is rife with strategies for handling these troublemakers.
Here are a few ideas:
- Scope yourself out. Take a break from everyday turmoil and examine your behaviors in your present work context. How did you get into this situation? Did you misjudge your hiring interview? Hopefully, you didn’t take a job without interviewing your potential immediate supervisor, a cardinal rule of taking a new job. Did your present boss misrepresent herself? Are you reinforcing bad-boss behaviors? For example, transactional analysis suggests that people should behave as adults in every interaction in a work environment. Do you respond to your boss’s parental behaviors by reacting like a naughty child?
- Analyze your boss’s behavior. What drives her? Does she know she is a difficult boss? Where is she going with her career? Does she have discernible goals? Assess your boss in terms of her interactions with other employees. Is she a consistently toxic supervisor with everyone, or just with you? If so, maybe you should try and help your boss achieve her goals (you should be doing this anyway), especially if it moves her out of her present position over you and someone more appropriate (for you) moves into it. Can you adequately assess the situation covertly from the sidelines, or should you plan a meeting with your boss to quietly explore what’s happening? If you decide to meet with your boss, arrange for an orchestrated sit-down that purports to talk about how you can do your job better. The real agenda will be for you to find out what you can do to manage the situation. You need to find out what the boss’s expectations are so that you can try to meet them. You may find that you are working for a person who is adrift in her own job situation and that you can set expectations where you want them. But this is when you decide whether you’re going to be able to last in this position or if you need to move elsewhere.
- Identify your special character. Difficult bosses typically characterize one of the following types, although they may, unfortunately, fit into more than one category:
- The Parent: Managers who act like parents tend to want to do everything for their subordinates, especially their work. Sometimes with the best intention, these bosses want to be sure their employees never fail. The consequence is that their hires suffer from Developmentis Interruptus. This behavior blocks any reasonable development for you as a professional. While these folks may hand out a lot of praise to their accomplished progeny, woe be to the wayward child employees, who will be disciplined sternly for failure. The remedy is to consistently respond as an adult. Remind your boss certain responsibilities are yours and yours alone and while you appreciate the help, you need something to fill your empty days — like your job.
- The Micromanager: Managers who micromanage have huge trust issues that block employees from accomplishing anything on their own. They really don’t think that you can do your job. And just because these managers do everything for you, don’t be lured into thinking that every task will be completed correctly. The solution here is close to that for the parent; but in this case, you need to demonstrate your competency. Unfortunately, your success may be someone else’s burden, as you might just shift your difficult boss’s preoccupation to another unfortunate employee.
- The Utopian: These managers are visionary, hopping from one dream to the next. While projecting incredible goals for their departments and subordinates, the tedious task of realistically evaluating each one is never done, so this type of manager leaves many goals only partially realized or completely missed. They also seem to think everything is rosy, no matter how dark the environment. And because their goals are so unrealistic, they have trouble articulating them. Your goal with these superiors is to bring them down to earth and help them express their targets in achievable forms. As you begin to realize realistic goals, you will not only help yourself but also aid your boss.
- The Victim: These managers imagine themselves the targets of every other department and sometimes even their own employees. You can find them hunkering down in their offices where they are avoiding the real world that is apparently out to get them. The way to deal with this kind of boss is to leave them alone. Obtain vital information necessary to do your job, and then just stay away. You’ll know where to find this boss, IF you need her or him to deliver an occasional organizational weather report.
- Machiavelli’s Spawn: High Mach-types are actually something in the literature of organizational behavior, derived from Niccolo Machiavelli, author of The Prince. These managers are highly manipulative and persuasive and in search of personal power. They see everything in a zero-sum game that is political and sneaky and would rather be feared than loved. The best way to deal with this situation is to not play the game. Don’t feed into it, don’t agree with it, and most importantly, try to avoid it. If you stay the adult, you won’t get caught. Unfortunately, if your high-Mach boss is so entrenched that you can’t circle around her, you might have to aim for the door.
- Mr. or Ms. Incommunicado: Some bosses are invisible. You never see them and, in fact, you rarely see any clues that they work in the same organization as you. For whatever reason, they’re never around. If you don’t mind working in a vacuum of no feedback, this boss is for you. Just check in frequently enough, so that you know you’ll receive a stellar annual employee appraisal. However, if you were counting on having a boss who would collaborate in your development as a professional, you might want to move on.
- If you are staying, don’t poke the bear, feed it. Once you have established that you have damaged goods in your boss, don’t exhibit bad behaviors or a poor performance that make a bad situation worse. Remember, if someone has to look bad, it shouldn’t be you. However, if you help your boss look good, you might be able to ride that success. If you can, play to your boss’s strengths. Remember, her success could become yours. For example, if you’re a manager and she micromanages your budget or staffing to stay within its prescribed parameter, maybe you let her. The end result makes you look good.
- If you are leaving, do so gracefully. If you do not have a tenable situation in which you can work on a long-term basis, make plans for your exit. First off, make sure your performance appraisals and references are intact. Smile all the way out of the job because even if you hate your boss, she still has power. If you have accepted a job elsewhere and you don’t need a formal reference from this individual, there’s the possibility that your superior will know someone in the organization you’re joining. The internet has shrunk the world to a small common conversation where everyone knows everyone.
So, staying or leaving, be prepared for the next step — whatever that may be. Remember, it’s a jungle out there.